Inner Confidence – 3 Keys

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Inner Confidence – 3 Keys

For several years now, I’ve been focused on motivation and personal development, and the biggest thing I’ve learned is that the key to everything is inner confidence.

There are all sorts of strategies, ways of thinking, behavior patterns, and practical tips on how to improve your life and feel better about yourself, but all of them are pointless if there’s no foundation. That foundation is the real you, the you that deep down you know you are. The art is that it requires trust…

1. Know Your Values

Personal values are my great passion, and sometimes I get carried away with emotions when talking about them. I don’t apologize for it – they are one of the most important things you can know about yourself and are essential for achieving true inner confidence. Your values ​​are deep within you, a thousand meters underground, at the very core of who you are, and they are your building blocks, your foundation. Value is something in you, in others, or in the world that is most important to you and may include things like respect, progress, family, fun, nature, achievements, or freedom.

Why do some people and situations make you feel angry, frustrated, demotivated, or depressed? This happens because one or more of your values ​​are denied or suppressed – and you experience it as a negative experience because it contradicts a fundamental part of who you are.

Do you know those moments when you felt really alive, amazing, or vibrant? These are moments when one or more of your values ​​are respected, and you can achieve more by living in line with them.

All your values belong to you, and no matter what happens, no one can ever take them away. You can have absolute trust in them because they are there all the time, just waiting for you to notice and use them. Once you know your values, you can start making choices and adjusting your life around them. It’s so simple and amazing because it really means that you are letting who you are live in the real world.

2. Trust Yourself

People spend too much time looking for signs that they’re doing things right or that they’re on the right path. Sometimes we get this by hearing that we’re doing well at work, sometimes it might be encouragement from a friend or loved one, and sometimes we get this feedback by seeing our material wealth or possessions grow.

But instead of looking outside for these signs, what about looking inside at what you’re telling yourself? What about trusting yourself to do the right thing and make great choices? Or maybe trust your own observations and use your own intuition? I’ve seen these ideas scare people, do you know why? Because it makes you responsible for what you get. If you trust yourself unconditionally and make a wrong choice, you can’t blame anyone else.

But the fact is, we all make mistakes, and we all will make them. So what if you could trust yourself to handle everything and trust yourself to continue making choices that serve you well – even if sometimes you mess up? That’s the kind of trust I’m talking about, and that’s authentic inner confidence.

Start by listening to yourself and paying attention to what your intuition tells you. Be aware of that quiet voice inside you or those gut reactions and physical sensations you get, and pay attention to what they’re telling you. Trust yourself to make decisions, trust yourself to adapt, and trust that you’re good enough to have, do, or be anything you want. True confidence will come. Happiness has been, is, and always will be within you.

3. Exercise Your Muscles

Confidence is a muscle, and like any muscle, you need to exercise it to keep it from shrinking and fading away. The problem is that unlike biceps or buttocks, which tend to stay in the same place, it’s harder to find your confidence muscle. How do you develop your biceps or tone your buttocks? By doing exercises that work that muscle for a while until you see the results you’re looking for.

It’s the same with confidence. Let’s say you’re a person who doesn’t take too many risks, someone who does what needs to be done every day and does it well, but doesn’t really stretch themselves. You might refrain from doing something because it’s too scary or because you think “I’m not good enough”, “I’m not who I am” or “I don’t really want to do it”. These people live within what they know and what is safe and comfortable for them. The less risk they take, the less confident they need to be, and therefore the less confident they become.

To work on your confidence, you need to be prepared to take risks – big or small. Be willing to expand your horizons and go in an unknown direction to try something new or try something in a slightly different way. Open yourself up to the opportunities around you and what you know, what you do, and who you are. The more open you are to risk, opportunities, the more confident you need to be, and therefore the more confidence you will develop.

That’s your confidence muscle – the question is, what are you going to do to exercise it?

I also recommend articles I wrote some time ago on similar topics:
https://drpruszak.com/blog/16-wskazowek-jak-osiagnac-sukces/,
https://drpruszak.com/blog/badz-szczesliwy-jak-tylko-chcesz/,
https://drpruszak.com/blog/cykl-przemocy-4-kroki-do-lepszego-zycia/